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We have a relationship with everything in our lives. Relationship dynamics are not often discussed and less understood. Our individual perspective/reality meshes with others perspective/reality forming a relationship dance that few understand, are aware of, respect or honor.

This site is about exploring relationships of all kinds so that we can all become more consciously aware of the inner workings of relationships, be they human, animal, nature, or our place in the Universe.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

The Changing Times

-Prissy Hamilton

Things are different, have you noticed? It feels different, looks different, reactions are different, we are seeing things with different eyes, with a different knowingness. Yes, it is subtle, it may just be a whisper, or feel like a slight unsteadiness, but it is there for anyone who tunes in to ‘life’ and accepts it and even for those that don’t.

I sit here on the porch of the old adobe house, side by side with Pewter, the cat, while the Hummingbirds drink from the feeder directly above her. She doesn’t seem to notice at all. The horses are moving around in the pasture, the fluffy clouds are gathering above for the afternoon sprinkle - all appears the same, status quo, but there is a difference. Feels different, not real familiar, but vaguely familiar, like I’ve been here before, but yet I know that I haven’t for every day is different.

It is perhaps easier for me to see and feel it than most, as I have few distractions living where I do. There is no traffic on the road, no voices to compete with, no noise except for bees and birds and natural things going about their daily routines.


The earth is in the midst of adjusting, as the rest of the inhabitants of this planet. The vibrations are very different. People are experiencing unfamiliar physical, emotional, and mental feelings. It isn’t quite like a brand new world, but there is a shadow of that sense to it.


All my life, I’ve tuned into nature and the energy around me. Approaching my older years, it is innate for me to do that as I’ve done it for so long. Nature, feels to me, like it is finding its new balance.


In the Zen mode of thinking, it is the Yin and the Yang, the in-breath and the out-breath. We’ve crossed the cross over point with each heading in different directions. The two realities are, as my friend says, unzipping. It is an odd experience. One minute you are in old familiar territory, and the next minute, it is slightly, but obviously different.


Out-breath is expanding and growing and creating with passion and participation, using more discernment in everyday decisions, experiences and thought processes.


In-breath is imploding, spiraling inward, contracting and somewhat solitary and most certainly much is fear based. In-breath is not so discerning, not so encompassing or aware of the whole, but concentrated on the self.


Two different distinct realities. You can see it in the political arena, the private, personal arena and even in world attitudes and events. There is a definite change taking place. The energies are different, very different.


There is, which is fear based, a tendency to hang on to the old ways of living, participating, and doing business in general. Trying to participate with ‘business as usual’ isn’t working any longer. It is no surprise that it makes for frustration, fear, confusion and a great deal of personal chaos. People are trying to figure out why, when their way of dealing and participating in the world worked before, it isn’t working now.


Those that are allowing the change with-in and with-out have an ungrounded feeling, but don’t seem to mind. They may feel a bit ‘wobbly’ at times, but they are going with the flow. Perhaps they sense that support is there, but in a different way, a different form, a different energy. It takes a re-tuning, a re-adjusting and a sensitive look at things around you. A re-evaluation about what your life is about, how you look at things, what you are passionate about and how you want to create, this time with passion.


It is known in the scientific world that the magnetic field has changed, the weather has changed, the earth itself has and is changing as well.


It is important and helpful that during this time of flux, of expansion, of growth, and of change, that we try to remain balanced with-in ourselves, our lives and our relationship to the world around us.


If and when we do get off balance, we want to avoid falling into the old habit of blaming others, of trying to pin that unbalance on others or make up excuses. Those old excuses no longer work.


It is helpful to ask questions of ourselves and others. ‘Is this feeling mine, or is it coming from outside of myself’? ‘What is the fear behind this feeling?’ and ‘How can I look at this differently?’ Being really accepting -without judgment - and non assuming of the answers that we get, we can honestly see what is really happening with us. And it will keep us from ‘projecting’ our feelings, our emotions, our assumptions on other people or circumstances. It will help pull us back into a reality based balance.


Then, we can ask questions of others. We must learn to ask these questions of others in a not interrogating way. If we come from a non-judging unassuming way, if we come from a genuine curiosity with our questions, we will get more truthful and honest answers and that will help us truly understand other’s actions, reactions and feelings toward us and other circumstances. If we ask in an interrogating way, then we throw people into more chaos, self doubt and it pushes them into a defensive stance.


It is all about balance. Accepting that we don’t know the exact truths, that we get to learn, that we can introspect and come up with our own answers and therefore not rely on outside sources. If we stop judging, stop projecting our beliefs and feelings onto others, we will learn more. If we ask more questions and openly listen to the answers, we become more rounded in our attitudes. If we stop pushing others to be like us, if we accept them as they are, knowing that their journey is different than ours, but no less important, then we can have a more natural interaction with all around us. Our strengths are in our differences, not in our same-ness.

Balance is knowing that we aren’t knowledgeable about everything, but we get to learn. and in that learning is an adventure, and if we do it with passion - it is almost magical and brings with it a lot of joy. Joy, when is the last time you experienced real joy?